The 6 Stages of Dating

The 6 Stages of Dating

The following is an excerpt from an article I wrote for Singles Warehouse. You can read the original article here.

John Gray (Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus) says there are five distinct stages to dating. These are Attraction, Uncertainty, Exclusivity, Intimacy and Engagement. If you skip any of these stages, the outcome may not be rosy. I would like to introduce a vitally important sixth stage – one that is often overlooked but essential to your dating success. This stage comes before all others. It’s the stage of Readiness.


6 Stages of Dating: Readiness – Are you ready to date?

First, are you actually ready to date? If you’ve just broken up with someone, you may not be. People tend to fall into one of two categories right after a breakup. Person A rushes into the arms of another person because she (or he) can’t stand being alone. She takes no time to assess what went wrong, and lacks self-awareness. This person looks for acceptance in a partner more than compatibility. She wants to feel attractive, and desirable, and will hook up with the first person who gives her any attention. She may rush into the final stages of dating — Exclusivity, Intimacy, and Engagement — without considering whether or not the relationship is “right”. What Person A needs more than anything is to spend some time alone, or date lightly without becoming exclusive. The point is to take the time to figure out what went wrong in her previous relationship so she doesn’t repeat the same mistakes. Person A needs to get comfortable and happy with being alone for a while. Mostly, she needs to date herself first.

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Author Adele Frizzell/Sophie Winters

Sophie Winters is the author of two books on dating and relationships. Sophie’s real name is Adele Frizzell. She enjoys travel, hiking, and lifting heavy weights. She is a competitive bench presser, certified yoga teacher, and mountain addict. She loves inspiring people to get more out of life.

Her first book, The Cha Cha Club Dating Man-ifesto is written for all the single ladies, while her second relationship advice book, It’s Not You, It’s Us: A Guide for Living Together Without Growing Apart is for couples who want more joy, intimacy and respect in their relationship. She is working on her third book.

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