Have More Fun Dating: Getting Ready For A Date

Have more fun dating: getting ready for a date

Dating doesn’t have to be awful or boring. In fact, it can be fun. In this series I talk about how to have more fun dating.

The following post is adapted from Chapter 2, “How to Begin a Lifelong Romance” by Sophie Winters, author of The Cha Cha Club Dating Man-ifesto. Now for sale on Amazon.

Getting Ready For A Date

In my last post, I talked about the importance of dating yourself first and all the benefits that brings to your relationships, the most important one being the relationship you have with yourself. That’s because when you love yourself and like yourself and put yourself first, life gets a whole lot juicier. In this post, I’ll discuss getting ready for a date with yourself. Whether you’re taking yourself on a date or going out with someone else, many of the same rules apply.

Mirror, Mirror on the Wall….

Have a look in the mirror and ask yourself: Would I make a good first impression?

Have a look at your surroundings and ask yourself: If my date came over, would the place be nice and clean?

Getting ready for a date with yourself means you lather on the same care and attention you would if someone else were romancing you. Wash your hair, spend a little more time applying your makeup. Wear something that makes you feel pretty. Whatever it takes to make your date with yourself feel real.

You may want to build up the anticipation if you’re planning a “big date”; buy a new outfit, get your nails done. Pleasurable anticipation increases oxytocin in your brain, and oxytocin is the feel-good chemical. You can make yourself feel good days before the date just by thinking about what you have planned.

It’s really powerful to learn that you actually can go out by yourself and have a nice time. There is no better way to flex your self-confidence muscles than by spending a little time getting to know yourself and enjoying your own company. Remember: the only truly defining relationship is the one with yourself.

Exercise: Real-life Romance

If you haven’t already done so, it’s time to take some action. I want you to get in the habit of taking yourself out on a date at least once a week, starting now.

You can go to cafés, concerts or cooking classes – wherever you want – but you must go by yourself, not with a friend. Start small if you need to – one hour in a coffee shop, for example – and up the ante each week. If the thought of going to a movie alone freaks you out, make that your ultimate goal and take baby steps to get there.

For some, this will be a hugely scary step. The scarier it feels, the more you need to do it. You will make huge advances as a woman and as a person if you take this action. You will learn a lot about yourself.

Don’t forget – put on the pretty. Smile at everyone who looks at you. Be open to the possibility of meeting someone nice and discovering something new. The universe will take care of the rest.

Guideline #8: Get outside Your Comfort Zone. That’s Where the Magic Happens.

Stay in your comfort zone, and nothing new will happen. Step outside your comfort zone, even a little, and watch yourself grow and change. Your confidence in handling new situations will increase. Your self-esteem will improve. You’ll get more cha cha. 

Take risks: if you win, you will be happy; if you lose, you will be wise.  – Author unknown

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Author Adele Frizzell/Sophie Winters

Sophie Winters is the author of two books on dating and relationships. Sophie’s real name is Adele Frizzell. She enjoys travel, hiking, and lifting heavy weights. She is a competitive bench presser, certified yoga teacher, and mountain addict. She loves inspiring people to get more out of life.

Her first book, The Cha Cha Club Dating Man-ifesto is written for all the single ladies, while her second relationship advice book, It’s Not You, It’s Us: A Guide for Living Together Without Growing Apart is for couples who want more joy, intimacy and respect in their relationship. She is working on her third book.



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