Have More Fun Dating: Get More Cha Cha

Have more fun dating: get more cha cha

Dating doesn’t have to be awful or boring. In fact, it can be fun. In this series I talk about how to have more fun dating.

The following post is adapted from Chapter 3, “Dating” by Sophie Winters, author of The Cha Cha Club Dating Man-ifesto. Now for sale on Amazon.

Dating is about getting your cha cha on. It can help you feel sexy and desirable and the more cha cha you have, the more dating opportunities you’ll find. So where do you find dates? When you have cha cha, they’re everywhere!

Half my dates come from pure randomness. One came from the guy who bought my bed on Kijiji. He picked it up on Valentine’s Day and noted I was home alone. “All alone on Valentine’s Day?” he said with a smile. “Yeah,” I shrugged. And then in a flash of inspiration I added, “I’m just between boyfriends right now.” His smile got bigger and I could tell he thought I was cute. He left and I got a text the next day asking me out for a drink.

I’ve gotten picked up in grocery stores, coffee shops and lineups. But one thing I’ve noticed – every time I was picked up, it was because I was relaxed, even happy. I may not have been dressed to the nines, but I was comfortable in my own skin. This idea of being comfortable in my own skin doesn’t mean it’s acceptable (to me) to go out in public with no makeup and bed head and sweat pants. For some gals, that may be fine but to me, I need to feel a little pride in my appearance. That means spending a few minutes on my hair and makeup even if I’m only dashing to the grocery store for milk.

Looking put together not only makes you feel good about your appearance, it relays to others that you value yourself. This displays high status and high status girls get noticed.

Guideline #25: How You Look Affects How You Feel.

(And How You Feel Affects How You Look.)

It’s simple really: when you’re feeling good (cha cha), you’re looking good (cha cha), and you’re attractive to others (cha cha). They just want to be around your energy. So do things that make you feel good, such as spending a little more time on your appearance or finding activities that you enjoy and put a smile on your face. Not just in the hopes of getting asked out on a date. Do things that make you feel good because it makes you feel good. That’s cha cha, and it’s irresistible.

Exercise: Pay attention to things that make you feel good.

Examples include buying a new lipstick, going for a walk, listening to certain music.  Also, pay attention to things that don’t make you feel good such as  wearing a certain outfit to work that makes you feel unattractive. Throw out the bad stuff, and make more room in your life for the good stuff. This will increase your energy level, and your attractiveness. (Note: this is important whether you’re single or in a relationship.)

Next: Date a quality man.

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Author Adele Frizzell/Sophie Winters

Sophie Winters is the author of two books on dating and relationships. Sophie’s real name is Adele Frizzell. She enjoys travel, hiking, and lifting heavy weights. She is a competitive bench presser, certified yoga teacher, and mountain addict. She loves inspiring people to get more out of life.

Her first book, The Cha Cha Club Dating Man-ifesto is written for all the single ladies, while her second relationship advice book, It’s Not You, It’s Us: A Guide for Living Together Without Growing Apart is for couples who want more joy, intimacy and respect in their relationship. She is working on her third book.

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