You Are Not Broken

You are not broken. If you’ve just been through a break-up, you probably feel a little (or maybe a lot) broken. Maybe you feel like your people picker is off. That you attract the wrong men (or women) into your life. That somehow, you caused all this to happen because you haven’t learned whatever it is you’re supposed to learn. My friend is going through this now. Intelligent,...
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The Importance of Being Happy

The Importance of Being Happy Here’s the thing: The happier I get, the less judgy I become. It’s an important observation. Profoundly simple. Think about how unhappy people behave. Think about members of the Westboro Baptist Church, for example.   Judgmental people aren’t happy people. Angry people aren’t happy people. Critical people aren’t happy people. Now...
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Don’t Give Up On Love

Don’t Give Up On Love Last night, just before bed, my boyfriend said to me, “I wish everyone could feel this kind of love.” So do I. Don’t settle and don’t give up. It took me 43 years to find a love like this, but it was worth waiting for. I say “waiting” but the truth is, I had to do a lot of work to get to a place where I could appreciate a man like...
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5 Myths About Child-Free Relationships

Child-free Relationships I enjoy being in a child-free relationship. If I want to spend a month in Italy, I have my partner’s blessing. If I want to write at any hour of the day or night, I can. If I want to skip making dinner, no problem. If I want to take myself to the movies, it’s as simple as sending a text that I’m going to go to a movie. There are no babysitters to arrange, no...
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That New Book Smell

That New Book Smell *This* close to sending my new book off to the editors for review and feedback. I’m around 250 pages for this first draft. My first book was 99 pages, so writing this one has been a marathon in comparison. I’m a little behind schedule. Okay, a lot behind schedule! I’ve had to bounce around a lot this year, spending no more than 3 months in one country....
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7 Things I’ve Learned from Pole Dancing

7 Things I’ve Learned from Pole Dancing Reposted with permission from Blonde and Blistered When most people hear the words “pole” and “dancing” in the same sentence, it conjures up images of dimly lit, smoky rooms, filled with slightly drunken middle-aged men, and the intoxicating scent of desperation.  This may be true in some scenarios (I mean, graduate students have to pay for their...
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