Get Good at Dating: Trust Your Intuition

Get Good at Dating: Trust Your Intuition

In my last post, I talked about How a Quality Man Behaves.

In this post, I discuss red flags in a bit more detail. Basically, a “red flag” is anything that makes you wonder about a guy. It’s a buzzer that goes off in your head when something doesn’t feel right. Men tend to call this “gut instinct” and women call it “intuition”. Any time I ignored my intuition, I lived to regret it.

You see, when I first meet a man, I always get a flash of intuition about him – he’s a good man, he’s dangerous, he’s needy, he’s angry, etc. It happens in an instant, and even if I want to ignore it and push it down, it’s always right. If only I’d listened to this inner wisdom in the past, I could have spared myself a lot of pain. I encourage you to listen to your intuition because that ability to read people, to recognize patterns, and to detect danger is a gift.

Exercise: Pay attention to your gut when you first meet a man. Is there a little voice inside you that whispers something about him? Do you get a good or bad feeling? A one word summary of someone as soon as you meet them?

PEARLY WISDOM: Promise yourself that if you ever get a really bad feeling about a person or a place, you will listen to that. Don’t stick around just to be polite, and for safety’s sake, make sure you don’t end up alone with someone who makes you feel creeped out. Find a way to end the date early. Be polite but be gone! 

Guideline #38: Trust Your Intuition.

As you get better at listening and trusting that little voice inside your head, you will feel more certain about your dating choices including who is “date worthy” and who isn’t. Remember: your ability to relax is in direct proportion to your ability to trust yourself, so let your Intuition guide you. After all, she’s got your back.

Next: Drama is bad for relationships.

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Author Adele Frizzell/Sophie Winters

Sophie Winters is the author of two books on dating and relationships. Sophie’s real name is Adele Frizzell. She enjoys travel, hiking, and lifting heavy weights. She is a competitive bench presser, certified yoga teacher, and mountain addict. She loves inspiring people to get more out of life.

Her first book, The Cha Cha Club Dating Man-ifesto is written for all the single ladies, while her second relationship advice book, It’s Not You, It’s Us: A Guide for Living Together Without Growing Apart is for couples who want more joy, intimacy and respect in their relationship. She is working on her third book.

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