What is Cha Cha?

What is Cha Cha?

I was asked this question in a recent interview with CanDace Johnson, a lifestyle coach for single women who runs the website, Sleeping With MANhattan. She read my book, The Cha Cha Club Dating Man-ifesto, and wanted to talk about cha cha and how it relates to dating. This article goes into a bit more detail about “what is cha cha?”

What is Cha Cha?

“Cha Cha” is a term I invented for any woman who exudes sexiness, confidence, femininity and – well, “cha cha”. It’s hard to define, but you know it when you see it. Let me explain the inspiration behind the word.

My friend Kate and I had just done a trip through the Middle East. After five weeks of covering up – arms, legs and hair – we were dying to feel the sun on our skin, to wear shorts and t-shirts and to not worry about being harassed for it. So we flew to Barcelona, Spain, and that’s when I realized I’d been missing something much more awesome than sunshine; I’d been missing the sight of female beauty and power. We saw it right away at the airport: women, proudly displaying their curves, their hips and lips and hair no longer covered up by tents of fabric. They were free to display their feminine assets, and adorn their bodies. Watching them was almost hypnotic after five weeks in the Middle East: I noticed a woman walk by with her toy dog. Makeup, dangling earrings, short-cropped hair. Skinny jeans tucked into high-heeled boots. Her head was high and she greeted her boyfriend with a huge smile. I turned to Kate and said, “She has cha cha.” Kate nodded. Somehow, we knew exactly what the term meant without having used it before.

 Cha cha is for women what mojo is for men. A woman with cha cha is sexy, fun, fearless and feminine. She is confident, smart and authentic. She is comfortable in her own skin and doesn’t pretend to be anything she isn’t. Cha cha is sugar and spice and everything nice about being a woman.

You Can’t Hide Cha Cha

A woman with cha cha radiates presence. She is comfortable in her own skin. There is a bit of mystery or allure about her. Maybe it’s due to the fact that she doesn’t seem to care much about what people think because she’s already got her own approval. She’s not a diva, though; she doesn’t need to be the centre of attention. And she’s not a drama queen; she’s got too much dignity for drama. She’s also way too grown up to act like a princess. Those women in Spain had cha cha, and lots of it. They oozed sexiness and confidence. And the more I saw it, the more I wanted it for myself. And THAT was the inspiration behind the Cha Cha Club: to create a series of books and a website to help myself – and other women – get more cha cha in their lives.

If you would like to listen to my full podcast interview with CanDace Johnson where we talk about cha cha in more detail, and how it makes life and dating better, click here.

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Author Adele Frizzell/Sophie Winters

Sophie Winters is the author of two books on dating and relationships. Sophie’s real name is Adele Frizzell. She enjoys travel, hiking, and lifting heavy weights. She is a competitive bench presser, certified yoga teacher, and mountain addict. She loves inspiring people to get more out of life.

Her first book, The Cha Cha Club Dating Man-ifesto is written for all the single ladies, while her second relationship advice book, It’s Not You, It’s Us: A Guide for Living Together Without Growing Apart is for couples who want more joy, intimacy and respect in their relationship. She is working on her third book.

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