What’s Your Dating Resume?

What’s Your Dating Resume?

What if we all had to put together a dating resume to compete in the dating market? I know it sounds a little weird but the inspiration came from a night out of salsa dancing. It was my second Salsa dancing lesson at a Meetup in Washington, DC, and I was surprised (once again) to find there were more men than women. So many men, in fact, that the guys were practicing their dance moves alone. It was cute because they were so clearly there to improve themselves.

My boyfriend thought it all might be due to the fact that the dating market in Washington, DC is highly competitive. As it turns out, he’s right.

According to this Bloomberg article on dating in the nation’s capital, “Washington has the highest ratio of women to men compared with all 50 states — 112 females for every 100 males.” Which makes finding love that much harder for the ladies. In this town, you really have to have some game if you’re a single woman. And that got me thinking —

1. Ladies here need to take more salsa lessons: a salsa club may be one of the few places in DC where men outnumber women. The men are keen. Many are single. They all like to dance.

2. What if, in order to date someone, you had to put together a Dating Resume? In a competitive dating market, the idea makes sense.

Girlfriend Wanted, Now Taking Applications

So if you had to put together a Dating Resume, what would it look like?

Do you have any unique skills you could list, like the ability to dance salsa, play guitar, or fix cars, which would make you marketable and attractive to the opposite sex?

What about Education, Experience, Languages Spoken, Hobbies?

Under the heading, Previous Boyfriends or Girlfriends, could you talk about your responsibilities, what you brought to the table, and what you learned from those experiences?

Could you provide good character references?

Are there any big gaps between relationships in your Dating Resume? That’s not necessarily a bad thing, but if interviewed, how would you explain them?

Do you show a history of bouncing around a lot? How would you explain that to your dream boyfriend?

How would you appear for the date/interview? (Hint: sexy-classy, not trailer-trashy is the way to go if you want more than a temp placement.)

If you did land a date/interview, can you offer interesting conversation about things other than reality TV and pop culture?

Do you carry yourself with confidence? (If not, work on that. It’s incredibly important.)

Are you engaging, authentic, and warm?

Your Dating Resume is not a Professional Resume

It’s important to note that you are more than the sum of your accomplishments. A lot of ambitious, professional women forget this.

I’ve had some girls in DC tell me where they went to college and where they work as if that’s impressive. A paper resume, accomplishments, status, aspirations are great yes, but they taken alone, they don’t impress as much as woman who has all those things who is also charming, feminine, WARM, sensual, and can engage in amazing conversation and interactions. ~ ExoticWaves

In short, what makes you stand out from other candidates?

Do what you have to do to make yourself more competitive in the dating market.

Even if you don’t live in a place where women outnumber men, you still want to pull the very best prospects.

Guideline #22 of the Cha Cha Club Dating Man-ifesto:

Separate Yourself from the Herd.

Think about it: the better your Dating Resume, the better your chances of finding a great catch.

Now go bust a move.

Next: What is Doing Too Much When Dating a Man? 


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Author Adele Frizzell/Sophie Winters

Sophie Winters is the author of two books on dating and relationships. Sophie’s real name is Adele Frizzell. She enjoys travel, hiking, and lifting heavy weights. She is a competitive bench presser, certified yoga teacher, and mountain addict. She loves inspiring people to get more out of life.

Her first book, The Cha Cha Club Dating Man-ifesto is written for all the single ladies, while her second relationship advice book, It’s Not You, It’s Us: A Guide for Living Together Without Growing Apart is for couples who want more joy, intimacy and respect in their relationship. She is working on her third book.


  1. Sophie,

    Your article is very awe-inspiring, if only every man, and woman created their own dating resume profile and advertise on websites as you’ve demonstrated.

    I believe this idea would solve the whole dating complex problem we’re dealing with in today’s world. Online dating is a flop because back in the day a man and woman had to confront one another and start the relationship on the spot. No hiding behind a PC trusting it to lead us on the path to romantic utopia.

    Today’s world is so sad, it created the complexities we’re struggling through now.

    • Hi Steven,

      Thanks for your comment, glad the article struck a chord with you. 🙂 I don’t agree that online dating is a flop though – maybe just a huge source of frustration for people (at times). I can relate. I online dated for about 8 years on and off (with a few relationships along the way) before I met Mr Right online. It took me awhile to figure things out in order to attract the right matches (I write about this in my book.) I really believe in online dating as a way to qualify potential dates and meet more people. (Note – it shouldn’t be the only method of dating – just another pond to fish in.)

      Did you know that more than twice as many couples who married last year met through online dating services than at a club or social event? It works! 🙂 ~ Sophie

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