It’s Not You, It’s Us






Are you ready for more joy, intimacy, and respect in your relationship? This powerful new relationship book helps couples get more love in their lives, starting with themselves.

It’s Not You, It’s Us: A Guide for Living Together Without Growing Apart



It’s Not You, It’s Us: A Guide for Living Together Without Growing Apart is a relationship advice book for couples who are married or new to living together. If you would like a sneak peak at this powerful new book, please visit or visit Amazon to preview the first 10% of the book.

It explores:

1. living together before marriage
2. emotional distance and codependency
3. having kids, stepkids, and pets
4. sex and desire
5. the division of labour
6. money, communication and conflict
7. family issues
8. personal growth and happiness
9. love contracts and living together agreements
10. mixed faith marriages
…And much more.

It’s Not You, It’s Us: A Guide for Living Together Without Growing Apart draws real world examples from other couples, family therapists, a documentary filmmaker, lawyers, and other authors and experts. More than an advice book, there are exercises at the end of most chapters so readers can immediately take action on what they’ve learned.

My goal is to help you build and maintain a deeply satisfying and lasting relationship. The book explains how to create a relationship where both partners feel safe to be themselves, and can continue to grow and develop as individuals. Read it, and get the tools you need to create your own happily ever after.

Like my first book, this one is full of shared stories and simple but powerful insights. The book is PERSONAL, easy to read, entertaining and well researched. Early feedback from readers:

I feel like I had a breakthrough in my own life and an understanding of myself. The tears just started flowing and I felt a huge release. I feel new.”

“I honestly can’t express how much the chapter on communication connected to me and my experiences with relationships. ESPECIALLY my most recent break up…..I honestly feel that your insight into communication between couples was spot on. I feel like I can use this now to move forward and hopefully make changes in my future relationships based on the tips you’ve given me.”

“I think the best points of the whole thing is that happiness can be achieved by good habits, and that living together/marriage can both be good or bad things depending on how you choose to honor your relationship.”

“Being widowed and now in a relatively new (4 years +) relationship complete with adult step-children and a step-grandson, separate homes and communities, ex wife, I’ve done a lot of reading and lived a lot of what you are writing about. And you are really bang on on the communication advice.”

Order the ebook on Amazon now.